How to Stop Being a Prisoner of Other People’s Expectations

Emotional freedom is your most powerful weapon.

Margaret Pan


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“I want to be free”.

That’s a phrase you’ve probably heard from many of your friends throughout your life — or one that you’ve said to them yourself.

Freedom can take many forms — financial, career-freedom, freedom in one’s personal life — and most of us crave to achieve it, sometimes without even realizing it. However, there’s only one form of freedom that is essential to your happiness and well-being:

Emotional freedom.

Achieving emotional freedom means breaking free from the chains of other people’s expectations and making decisions and choices based on your own needs. It also means letting go of the fear of not being good enough for others.

Think about it. From a very young age, we are taught to comply with what others think we should do, to follow their example, and to behave in a way that society thinks is good, wise, and acceptable — but might have nothing to do with our idea of happiness.

As philosopher, author, and founder of School of Life Alain de Botton explains:

“We give over our days and much of our evenings and weekends to complying with an agenda elaborated for us by…



Margaret Pan

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