Introvert, writer, translator, bookworm, and animal lover.

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Hey there!

I’m Margaret Pan and I’m a freelance writer/translator, based in Athens, Greece. I decided to write this story in order to give you a better sense of who I am, my writing journey, and how I can help you.

I don’t know if my introversion is to blame, but I’ve always found it hard to talk about myself, so stick with me while I try my best.

Happy reading!

Table of Contents

  1. A Little Bit About Me
  2. My Writing Journey
  3. My Medium Writing Journey
  4. How I Can Help You
  5. 10 Random Facts About Me
  6. Where You Can Find Me

A Little Bit About Me

First of…

5 signs you’ve found the safety you’ve been looking for.

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Have you ever been in a relationship with someone with whom you felt you couldn’t be your authentic self?

Or maybe, even though you trusted your partner, you felt like you couldn’t share with them all of your thoughts and feelings?

If that’s the case, your relationship probably lacked emotional safety, or your partner exhibited emotionally unsafe behaviors.

What’s emotional safety, you ask?

Besides the fact that it’s a vital component of any healthy, successful, and long-lasting relationship, I’m gonna explain right away:

  • what it means
  • how you can spot an emotionally safe person
  • how you can evaluate whether you…

Here’s what you need to give up immediately.

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Our relationship beliefs matter because what you believe about a relationship is also what you bring into it.

Between Hollywood movies, crappy tv-shows, and dozens of articles by people who have no idea what they’re talking about, many of us have unfortunately developed some unhealthy beliefs about love and dating, that hamper the growth and success of our relationships.

What follows are the four most common, yet toxic beliefs most people have about relationships, and how they can harm the happiness of the two people involved in one.

1. Relationships Should Follow a Specific Pattern

Here’s a universal truth about relationships: they take place within a social…

Do your heart a favor and look out for these red flags.

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Have you ever dated someone who seemed completely enamored with you, only for them to dumb you and broke your heart a couple of weeks later?

Trust me, you did nothing wrong — you just found yourself with a serial heartbreaker.

Once you enter the fascinating (and sometimes terrifying) dating world, it’s likely you’ll encounter one of them. Charming, witty, and good-looking, they’re very difficult to resist. They go around stealing hearts and then breaking them, without a care in the world.

If you look closely enough though, you can see through their facade — the warning signs appear early…

If there’s something you need to say or ask, do it.

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A couple of days ago, I texted my ex-best friend, with whom I had zero contact for more than 1,5 years.

Our friendship ended for reasons that were— until recently — unknown to me. Somehow we drifted apart, and then, one day she literally just disappeared from my life. No texts, no calls, no explanations — no closure.

At the time, I was too preoccupied with taking care of my sick mother, finding a stable job, and overcoming depression so I simply let it pass, by thinking, “It’s ok — friendships just end”.

However, a couple of months ago, when…

They can help you understand your social interactions and strengthen your social life.

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Sometimes, when people ask you why you like someone, it’s hard to give them a satisfying answer.

You just do, right? Sometimes you don't even fully understand what attracted you to a particular person so much.

But, even though you might not be able to explain how your brain ticks, psychology can. Many studies and much research has been conducted in order to understand the psychology behind our actions, choices, and decisions.

You might think you have complete control over these things, but most of the time the unconscious significantly influences the way you think and operate, especially when it…

Some books give the most unforgettable life lessons

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When was the last time you learned something new, something important?

Personally, I love learning new things. I love learning them from books even more. You know what they say — it’s never too late to expand your knowledge.

Thankfully, you don’t necessarily need to take courses or sit in dozens of lectures in order to educate yourself and gain valuable knowledge about life, the world, or even yourself.

Sometimes, reading a good book is enough.

Without further ado, here’s a list of books that truly taught me important things — that not only expanded my knowledge but also helped…

How to identify this wicked, manipulative tactic.

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Have you ever gotten involved with someone who kept leading you on but had no intentions of taking things further?

Or maybe, you’ve found yourself chasing after a person who would feed you stale bits of attention to keep you around but kept going radio silence for no apparent reason?

If these behaviors sound familiar, chances are you were being breadcrumbed — yes, another one of those weird modern dating terms.

“Breadcrumbing” is a term used to describe situations where a person shows romantic interest towards someone periodically, but in reality has no intention to become romantically involved with them.

It’s time to rewire your thoughts.

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They say that everyone has different ideas about love and relationships. But how many of them are healthy and realistic?

Over the years, popular culture, the media, and society as a whole have created a cycle of toxic relationship myths that are being passed around as relationship wisdom.

The thing is, those myths spell trouble for relationships and the people involved in them.

That’s why I decided to compile a list of the five most common myths about relationships I wish people would stop believing — and the truth behind them.

#1. Women Fall in Love Faster Than Men

Ask any man in your life whether they believe…

Narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy combined.

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What if your partner lacked empathy and remorse? How would you feel if you found out that your partner is manipulative and exploitative? Or, if they were callous and detached?

How about if your partner had all these traits combined?

Psychologists refer to this toxic combination of traits as “The Dark Triad”. The term was invented by researchers Delroy L. Paulhus and Kevin M. Williams back in 2002, and today is used to describe people with three distinct yet related personality traits: narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy.

What follows is a breakdown of:

  • what exactly is the dark triad
  • how you…

Margaret Pan

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