Here’s what you need to give up immediately.
Our relationship beliefs matter because what you believe about a relationship is also what you bring into it.
Between Hollywood movies, crappy tv-shows, and dozens of articles by people who have no idea what they’re talking about, many of us have unfortunately developed some unhealthy beliefs about love and dating, that hamper the growth and success of our relationships.
What follows are the four most common, yet toxic beliefs most people have about relationships, and how they can harm the happiness of the two people involved in one.
1. Relationships Should Follow a Specific Pattern
Here’s a universal truth about relationships: they take place within a social…
Introvert, writer, translator, bookworm, and animal lover.
Hey there!
I’m Margaret Pan and I’m a freelance writer/translator, based in Athens, Greece. I decided to write this story in order to give you a better sense of who I am, my writing journey, and how I can help you.
I don’t know if my introversion is to blame, but I’ve always found it hard to talk about myself, so stick with me while I try my best.
Happy reading!
Table of Contents
- A Little Bit About Me
- My Writing Journey
- My Medium Writing Journey
- How I Can Help You
- 10 Random Facts About Me
- Where You Can Find Me
A Little Bit About Me
First of…
#4: They don’t try to turn you into a copy of themselves.
One of the main questions I often get from people around me when it comes to relationships is,
“How do I know my partner is the one?”
You know that feeling when you meet someone gorgeous, go on a couple of days and you immediately start thinking, “Ok, I think I’ve found my forever person”?
That’s enthusiasm speaking — you can never know if a person matches you completely unless you’ve spent significant time with them, and gotten to know them on a deeper level.
You see, a lot of people think that “the one” is a person who makes…
5 signs you’ve found the safety you’ve been looking for.
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone with whom you felt you couldn’t be your authentic self?
Or maybe, even though you trusted your partner, you felt like you couldn’t share with them all of your thoughts and feelings?
If that’s the case, your relationship probably lacked emotional safety, or your partner exhibited emotionally unsafe behaviors.
What’s emotional safety, you ask?
Besides the fact that it’s a vital component of any healthy, successful, and long-lasting relationship, I’m gonna explain right away:
- what it means
- how you can spot an emotionally safe person
- how you can evaluate whether you…
Borrow them for a less stress-filled life
Is there anyone out there who doesn’t admire zen people?
A huge tragedy hits them and they stay calm and grounded.
Whenever they have to face a setback, they remain undisturbed and focused.
They don’t let stress, anger, or frustration get the better of them.
According to the Cambridge Dictionary, the word “zen” refers to a person’s ability to remain calm and relaxed in the face of difficulties and not worry about things out of their control.
The question is, how do they do it?
Here are four things the most zen people have in common that allow them to…
A 4-step guide to self-compassion and self-love
If someone asked me what I think my biggest flaw is, the answer would come easy:
I’m overly self-critical.
Or at least, I used to be. I was always too hard on myself and felt guilty whenever I make a mistake. I scrutinized each one of my actions and thought none of my personal achievements were good enough.
Throughout the years, I learned to recognize the difference between making a mistake or a bad decision and being a bad person.
And although there are still days when my merciless inner critic wakes up and begins taunting me about my mistakes…
A tiger cannot change its stripes
When I first entered the dating world as a young and inexperienced girl, I spent a lot of my time getting involved with people who were a bad fit for me, in hopes that somewhere along the way, they would change.
Or, more specifically, that I would be the one who would change them.
The mere thought that someone would fall in love with me so hard that they would completely change themselves for the better, seemed pretty romantic and exciting at the time.
It later turned out that not only such thoughts were selfish and immature, but they also…
The types that make the best romantic partners.
When it comes to a serious relationship, what do you usually look for in a partner? I mean, besides their looks, what are some things that attract you to a person and make you feel like they’re worth your long-term commitment?
Whatever your answer was, you might want to rethink it. Because, what you should first and foremost search for in a partner, is a secure attachment style.
Our attachment styles affect pretty much everything in our relationships. …
That I wish someone had told me a year ago
It’s been one year since I started my writing journey and six months since I started treating writing as a full-time job. This month I managed to make $2000 from my work, which means that I’m finally in that place where writing has become my main source of income.
Although some could say I’m fairly new to the game, I’ve learned some valuable lessons that taught me a lot about writing, work, and success and altered the way I approach all these three things.
Because I wish someone had been brutally honest with me a year ago and taught me…
Why you shouldn’t let modern beauty standards affect you too much
The other day, as a shampoo commercial started playing on TV, and a girl with striking looks and amazing, thick, long hair appeared on our screen, my mother exclaimed:
“God, her hair is amazing! It’s so unfair — I wish I had it too. They take a woman’s beauty to a whole other level!”
And that’s not the first time she says something like that. Every time she sees a woman with beautiful, thick, long hair on her TV or laptop screen, she makes a similar remark.
That’s probably because she never had long hair; since she was little, every…
Margaret Pan
Thoughtful writer. I write about relationships, psychology, and personal development. Newsletter + more: https://linktr.ee/margpan
